Tools of Titans: BJ Miller

What could possibly be the biggest takeaways from a chapter with sections like “Don’t Believe Everything That You Think,” “Delighting in Perishability,” and “The Miracle of a Snowball”?

There are quite a few, but the biggest one to me is:

One way for all of us to live until we’re actually dead is to prize those little moments.

It’s further expounded with BJ’s advice to his 30-year-old-self:

Let it go. I do mean to take life very seriously, but I need to take things like playfulness and purposelessness very seriously…

My daughter Eleni’s birthday was this past week. I am now the proud parent of a 6 year old, a 4 year old, and a 2 year old. Crazy! ¬†Who knew my wife and I could do it?

In all seriousness, each and every day I experience something new in my life that I’ve never experienced before. Everything changes. Just like Staind said. Who knew they were so smart? Eleni has a track record of changing her behavior on a dime. When she turned 2, she could suddenly speak. Now that she turned 4, she actually wasn’t the last child to be ready in the morning.

I know most of this post is me rambling but BJ’s life has led him to appreciate the subtle nuances and experiences of life. And I think that’s something we can all learn. Live in the now, even if it might not seem like such a big deal at the time.

Those small moments we spend with those in our life make life worth living. I made a pledge a couple years ago that I would spend a day a month focused on one of my kids. It could be something small or something big, but I’m hoping to make deposits in my children’s life.

Everything changes. But the love of my kids and their knowledge of it shall not.